Does Our Life Purpose Transform and Become More Powerful Overtime?
Written by Family First Adolescent Services,
in Section Family Resources
As parents, teachers, and mentors, we will be called on to answer this vital question, so it's essential we have an answer ready!
It is common to believe we were all wired to be something special, but does this mean it just one thing for every lifetime? Is this special something connected to a career or accumulating worth? These two questions are worth pondering, especially since as parents, teachers, and mentors, we will teach new minds about how to find their life’s meaning.
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Our purpose becomes more significant as we mature
Ask a child what they want to be when they grow up, and they will say things like a firefighter, police officer, doctor, astronaut, pro athlete, or a teacher. Chances are the adults around them, or something they picked up from watching television influenced these ideas. But the fact is that very few of the desires we had as children become our true calling.
As children grow older and go to school, the pressures grow to conform to the societal rules being taught by their parents and teachers. This is how they learn to be what others want them to be, but this can keep them from getting in touch with their correct wiring. Sorting through all the confusing stuff society, parents, and mentors taught us and then discovering our true calling becomes our most significant existential dilemma. This is the path to our calling.
A lesson from Superman about choosing your purpose
Imagine what it would be like if everyone saw you as their savior. This is what Superman faces 24/7. It must be a real pain in for him to be enjoying Easter dinner with his family and suddenly get a call from the Pentagon to stop some oncoming meteor bound to destroy the state of Montana. Yet, Superman can always be counted on to save the day.
The critical lesson to note is that it is not his x-ray vision, speed and strength that make him a superhero, it is that he uses his powers to make the world a better, safer place.
This is how it works for you. Your title, power, wealth, etc. do not determine your purpose, your efforts to use your talents to create a more magnificent good spell it out.
A life well-lived has many purposes
Where we differ from this fictional character is that our mission changes over time. Take former President Jimmy Carter, for example. There was a time in his life he provided the world with peanuts from his farm in Georgia. Then he would go on to lead the free world as president of the USA. After his presidency ended, he became a builder of homes for people who needed them working with Habitat for Humanity. He still builds these homes, but he is so much more! He has become a worldwide symbol of how to bring peace, justice, generosity, and kindness for the afflicted, persecuted, and the impoverished.
Even my life has had four distinct phases with a different purpose. My first purpose became apparent when my parents sent me to the U.S.A. as an unaccompanied youth seeking refuge from Fidel Castro’s revolution in Cuba. The early years I spent as an immigrant in the United States, especially the ones after my parents and I reunited, taught me the most basic of all human purposes, how to be a survivor. I had to overcome difficult life challenges with dogged determination and resilience. I shared this purpose with my two brothers.
My second life purpose arose when I became a civil engineer and became an expert in working with others building roads, bridges, and systems that enable people and freight to move from point A to B. This was a rewarding purpose that also gave me a new perspective on life and humanity.
I had to learn to hone my life’s third purpose when I moved into leadership/management positions. I discovered that being an engineering expert was not enough; I had to learn to motivate and inspire diverse groups of people. This did not come naturally at first. I had to dig deep to push away my ego on behalf of a more significant cause. Eventually, I got the hang of it. This new purpose has given me an unshakeable passion that sticks with me even now, uniting people, organizations, and communities behind a great mission and purpose.
Today, I am well into my fourth life purpose, shining a light on some of life’s great mysteries and lessons I have deciphered throughout my journey so that others may discover these gifts in their own lives. I share these revelations through my speaking and writing.
Think back on all the beautiful people in your life and see how their purposes blossomed in this very same way. Your life has similarly evolved.
Take the time to examine your life. You will see similar patterns as I show in mine. You, too, have hammered out different purposes with everything you have experienced and by every decision you ever made. Your title, power, wealth, or strength may have come and gone, but they never defined your purpose. Like Superman, the commitment and effort you made to use your talents to create a better world clarify it for you.
Recollecting your life gives you a fuller view of the beautiful pattern you have woven out of every piece of scrap material that make up the quilt of experiences that is your life. You will realize how you became better, wiser, and more powerful. Knowing this about yourself gives you the confidence to handle everything that comes your way.
Remember, paying gratitude for life forward will fill you with joy and serenity.